"Whether we realize it or not, most of us that struggle with much of Christendom today are trying to distance ourselves from religious hostility. By hostility I mean opposition, the sense that the other is the enemy. Hostility makes one unwilling to be a host. The other must be turned away, kept at a distance as an unwanted outsider, not welcomed in hospitality as a guest or friend. Hostility is an attitude of exclusion, not embrace; of repugnance, not respect; of suspicion, not extending the benefit of doubt; of conflict, not sociability or conviviality."

  How do we disassociate from the hostility without abandoning the identity? How do we remain loyal to what is good and real in our faith without giving tacit support to what is wrong and dangerous? How do we, as Christians, faithfully affirm the uniqueness and universality of Christ without turning that belief into an insult or weapon?

How do you distinguish yourself from those who need enemies to know who they are?" 

Brain McLaren from the book "Why Did Jesus, Moses, the Buddha, and Mohammed Cross the Road?"