Friday, December 27, 2024

Priestesses in the Church? By C.S. Lewis. 

"I should like Balls infinitely better," said Caroline Bingley, "if they were carried on in a different manner ... It would surely be much more rational if conversation instead of dancing made the order of the day."

"Much more rational, I dare say," replied her brother, "but it would not be near so much like a Ball." We are told that the lady was silenced: yet it could be maintained that Jane Austen has not allowed Bingley to put forward the full strength of his position. He ought to have replied with a distinguo. In one, sense conversation is more rational for conversation may exercise the reason alone, dancing does not. But there is nothing irrational in exercising other powers than our reason. On certain occasions and for certain purposes the real irrationality is with those who will not do so. The man who would try to break a horse or write a poem or beget a child by pure syllogizing would be an irrational man; though at the same time syllogizing is in itself a more rational activity than the activities demanded by these achievements. It is rational not to reason, or not to limit oneself to reason, in the wrong place; and the more rational a man is the better he knows this.

These remarks are not intended as a contribution to the criticism of Pride and Prejudice. They came into my head when I heard that the Church of England was being advised to declare women capable of Priests' Orders. I am, indeed, informed that such a proposal is very unlikely to be seriously considered by the authorities. To take such a revolutionary step at the present moment, to cut ourselves off from the Christian past and to widen the divisions between ourselves and other Churches by establishing an order of priestesses in our midst, would be an almost wanton degree of imprudence. And the Church of England herself would be torn in shreds by the operation. My concern with the proposal is of a more theoretical kind. The question involves something even deeper than a revolution in order.

I have every respect for those who wish women to be priestesses. I think they are sincere and pious and sensible people. Indeed, in a way they are too sensible. That is where my dissent from them resembles Bingley's dissent from his sister. I am tempted to say that the proposed arrangement would make us much more rational "but not near so much like a Church".

For at first sight all the rationality (in Caroline Bingley's sense) is on the side of the innovators. We are short of priests. We have discovered in one profession after another that women can do very well all sorts of things which were once supposed to be in the power of men alone. No one among those who dislike the proposal is maintaining that women are less capable than men of piety, zeal, learning and whatever else seems necessary for the pastoral office. What, then, except prejudice begotten by tradition, forbids us to draw on the huge reserves which could pour into the priesthood if women were here, as in so many other professions, put on the same footing as men? And against this flood of common sense, the opposers (many of them women) can produce at first nothing but an inarticulate distaste, a sense of discomfort which they themselves find it hard to analyse.

That this reaction does not spring from any contempt for women is, I think, plain from history. The Middle Ages carried their reverence for one Woman to a point at which the charge could be plausibly made that the Blessed Virgin became in their eyes almost "a fourth Person of the Trinity". But never, so far as I know, in all those ages was anything remotely resembling a sacerdotal office attributed to her. All salvation depends on the decision which she made in the words Ecce ancilla; she is united in nine months" inconceivable intimacy with the eternal Word; she stands at the foot of the cross." But she is absent both from the Last Supper and from the descent of the Spirit at Pentecost. Such is the record of Scripture. Nor can you daff it aside by saying that local and temporary conditions condemned women to silence and private life. There were female preachers. One man had four daughters who all "prophesied", i.e. preached. There were prophetesses even in Old Testament times. Prophetesses, not priestesses.

At this point the common sensible reformer is apt to ask why, if women can preach, they cannot do all the rest of a priest's work. This question deepens the discomfort of my side. We begin to feel that what really divides us from our opponents is a difference between the meaning which they and we give to the word "priest". The more they speak (and speak truly) about the competence of women in administration, their tact and sympathy as advisers, their national talent for "visiting", the more we feel that the central thing is being forgotten. To us a priest is primarily a representative, a double representative, who represents us to God and God to us. Our very eyes teach us this in church. Sometimes the priest turns his back on us and faces the East - he speaks to God for us: sometimes he faces us and speaks to us for God. We have no objection to a woman doing the first: the whole difficulty is about the second. But why? Why should a woman not in this sense represent God? Certainly not because she is necessarily, or even probably, less holy or less charitable or stupider than a man. In that sense she may be as "God-like" as a man; and a given women much more so than a given man. The sense in which she cannot represent God will perhaps be plainer if we look at the thing the other way round.

Suppose the reformer stops saying that a good woman may be like God and begins saying that God is like a good woman. Suppose he says that we might just as well pray to "Our Mother which art in heaven" as to "Our Father". Suppose he suggests that the Incarnation might just as well have taken a female as a male form, and the Second Person of the Trinity be as well called the Daughter as the Son. Suppose, finally, that the mystical marriage were reversed, that the Church were the Bridegroom and Christ the Bride. All this, as it seems to me, is involved in the claim that a woman can represent God as a priest does.

Now it is surely the case that if all these supposals were ever carried into effect we should be embarked on a different religion. Goddesses have, of course, been worshipped: many religions have had priestesses. But they are religions quite different in character from Christianity. Common sense, disregarding the discomfort, or even the horror, which the idea of turning all our theological language into the feminine gender arouses in most Christians, will ask "Why not? Since God is in fact not a biological being and has no sex, what can it matter whether we say He or She, Father or Mother, Son or Daughter?"

But Christians think that God Himself has taught us how to speak of Him. To say that it does not matter is to say either that all the masculine imagery is not inspired, is merely human in origin, or else that, though inspired, it is quite arbitrary and unessential. And this is surely intolerable: or, if tolerable, it is an argument not in favour of Christian priestesses but against Christianity. It is also surely based on a shallow view of imagery. Without drawing upon religion, we know from our poetical experience that image and apprehension cleave closer together than common sense is here prepared to admit; that a child who has been taught to pray to a Mother in Heaven would have a religious life radically different from that of a Christian child. And as image and apprehension are in an organic unity, so, for a Christian, are human body and human soul.

The innovators are really implying that sex is something superficial, irrelevant to the spiritual life. To say that men and women are equally eligible for a certain profession is to say that for the purposes of that profession their sex is irrelevant. We are, within that context, treating both as neuters.

As the State grows more like a hive or an ant-hill it needs an increasing number of workers who can be treated as neuters. This may be inevitable for our secular life. But in our Christian life we must return to reality. There we are not homogeneous units, but different and complementary organs of a mystical body. Lady Nunburnholme has claimed that the equality of men and women is a Christian principle. I do not remember the text in scripture nor the Fathers, nor Hooker, nor the Prayer Book which asserts it; but that is not here my point. The point is that unless "equal" means "interchangeable", equality makes nothing for the priesthood of women. And the kind of equality which implies that the equals are interchangeable (like counters or identical machines) is, among humans, a legal fiction. It may be a useful legal fiction. But in church we turn our back on fictions. One of the ends for which sex was created was to symbolize to us the hidden things of God. One of the functions of human marriage is to express the nature of the union between Christ and the Church. We have no authority to take the living and semitive figures which God has painted on the canvas of our nature and shift them about as if they were mere geometrical figures.

This is what common sense will call "mystical". Exactly. The Church claims to be the bearer of a revelation. If that claim is false then we want not to make priestesses but to abolish priests. If it is true, then we should expect to find in the Church an element which unbelievers will call irrational and which believers will call supra-rational. There ought to be something in it opaque to our reason though not contrary to it - as the facts of sex and sense on the natural level are opaque. And that is the real issue. The Church of England can remain a church only if she retains this opaque element. If we abandon that, if we retain only what can be justified by standards of prudence and convenience at the bar of enlightened common sense, then we exchange revelation for that old wraith Natural Religion.

It is painful, being a man, to have to assert the privilege, or the burden, which Christianity lays upon my own sex. I am crushingly aware how inadequate most of us are, in our actual and historical individualities, to fill the place prepared for us. But it is an old saying in the army that you salute the uniform not the wearer. Only one wearing the masculine uniform can (provisionally, and till the Parousia) represent the Lord to the Church: for we are all, corporately and individually, feminine to Him. We men may often make very bad priests. That is because we are insufficiently masculine. It is no cure to call in those who are not masculine at all. A given man may make a very bad husband; you cannot mend matters by trying to reverse the roles. He may make a bad male partner in a dance. The cure for that is that men should more diligently attend dancing classes; not that the ballroom should henceforward ignore distinctions of sex and treat all dancers as neuter. That would, of course, be eminently sensible, civilized, and enlightened, but, once more, "not near so much like a Ball".

And this parallel between the Church and the Ball is not so fanciful as some would think. The Church ought to be more like a Ball than it is like a factory or a political party. Or, to speak more strictly, they are at the circumference and the Church at the Centre and the Ball comes in between. The factory and the political party are artificial creations - "a breath can make them as a breath has made". In them we are not dealing with human beings in their concrete entirety only with "hands" or voters. I am not of course using "artificial" in any derogatory sense. Such artifices are necessary: but because they are our artifices we are free to shuffle, scrap and experiment as we please. But the Ball exists to stylize something which is natural and which concerns human beings in their entirety-namely, courtship. We cannot shuffle or tamper so much. With the Church, we are farther in: for there we are dealing with male and female not merely as facts of nature but as the live and awful shadows of realities utterly beyond our control and largely beyond our direct knowledge. Or rather, we are not dealing with them but (as we shall soon learn if we meddle) they are dealing with us.

Friday, December 20, 2024


 Are you in recovery?

Do you find yourself struggling, sorely tempted to go back and pick up the blunt, baggie or pipe? 

For that one person out there, that may be on the verge of returning to what the Bible calls 

“The domain of darkness,” 

let me remind you what that domain of darkness holds for you.

"House stripped and bare; her wedding ring lying there

I wish I stayed; vows betrayed

Wives beaten; drugs eaten

Tempers flare, sirens blare, prison house stare

Liquor pours, jail house doors

Charge of possession, years of depression

Years unemployed; opportunities destroyed

Mothers sighing, years of lying, children crying, hopes dying!

Basement, couch or attic; home of the roaming addict

Lies spoken; friendships broken

Music blaring, hollow eyes staring, needle sharing

Nothing to share, cupboards bare, no one to care

Sin sick soul, blunt, bag and bowl; 

no hope, no help, no goal….


Let us never forget! May our eyes not be blinded to what lays at our door! Oh! But God rescued us from the domain of darkness

And transferred us to “the kingdom of His beloved Son.”

Let me also remind you of Christ’s kingdom….

A coal, a spark, a flame, 

new hope in Jesus’ name!

I have as much value and worth as any person on earth

Breaking the chains of anguish, despair and addiction; 

Ending the life of constriction, friction and contradiction,

 A do over, a brand-new page!

Freedom from depression and inner rage.

Leaving crime, passion and strife

Learning to walk in love, light and new life! 


Thursday, December 19, 2024


 "Take care of him, and I'll repay you when I return." 

Lk. 10:35

Tuesday, December 17, 2024


 "Never harm your woman, not with your hands, your words, or your silence. A woman who stands by you is your biggest blessing, and her presence is a testament to her love and trust in you. When you choose to hurt her, you choose to wound her spirit, and with every wound, a piece of that beautiful bond you share is lost forever.

Never forget that your words hold immense power. The things you say can either uplift her or tear her down. Choose to speak life into her heart, to build her up rather than tear her apart. Your words can heal, comfort, and inspire her, or they can create scars that she might carry for a lifetime. Use your voice to nurture, to bring her peace, and to remind her of the love you hold.

Never let your pride come in the way of showing her the love she deserves. Ego can destroy what could be the most beautiful connection between two souls. Lower your guard and allow yourself to be vulnerable, for in that space, true intimacy blooms. There’s strength in showing her that you’re willing to bend, to grow, to become a better man for her.

Never take her presence for granted. It’s easy to overlook the little things she does, the way she cares, the way she gives her heart without holding back. Remember, her heart is delicate, and once she feels unappreciated, a part of her will begin to close off. Value her presence, appreciate her efforts, and make sure she knows how much she means to you.

Never underestimate the power of your touch. A gentle touch can be a source of immense comfort to her, a reminder that she is safe in your arms. Touch her with kindness, with gentleness, and with intention. Let her feel through your touch that she is cherished, that her body, heart, and mind are treasures to you.

Never allow anger to cloud your judgment. When tempers flare, remember that words spoken in anger can never truly be taken back. Take a breath, step back, and remember that peace is more important than proving a point. She deserves your patience, your gentleness, even in moments of frustration.

Never let her feel alone in her struggles. Stand by her side when life feels heavy for her, be her shoulder when she needs to lean on someone. Remind her that she doesn't have to carry her burdens alone, that you’re there to share the weight. Being her support in tough times is one of the greatest expressions of love.

Never let routine dull the spark between you. Make time for the small gestures, the unexpected surprises, the sweet words that make her heart flutter. A relationship thrives when both partners continually choose to water the garden of love, even after the initial passion fades. Keep the romance alive with effort and intention.

Never ignore her dreams and aspirations. Her goals and desires are just as valid as yours. Support her in achieving what she’s set her heart on, and be her biggest cheerleader. When she knows that you believe in her potential, she’ll feel empowered to reach new heights, knowing you’re by her side.

Never stop communicating with her. Silence can create distance, and distance can lead to misunderstanding. Keep the door to honest conversations open, even when the topics are difficult. Let her know she can come to you with her fears, her joys, her doubts, and her dreams, and that you’ll listen with an open heart.

Never forget that love is a choice you make every single day. Choose to be kind, choose to be patient, choose to be present. Every day is a new opportunity to show her just how much she means to you. Never let a day go by without letting her feel loved, seen, and valued."



 "When a man is gentle, soft, and consistently respects you, that's when your nervous system starts healing. That's why some women have that special glow when they're being loved right in a relationship. It’s not the love itself, it's the emotional safety that comes with being cherished and valued. The way a man creates a space where you feel seen and heard without judgment changes everything. It helps you breathe easier, smile deeper, and feel a sense of peace that you might have forgotten even existed.

When a man is patient with your emotions and embraces your vulnerability, it allows you to trust him deeply. It’s in those moments when he chooses understanding over frustration that you feel the weight of past pain lifting. His presence becomes a soothing balm to the wounds you’ve carried, and slowly, the pieces of your heart start to come together again. His patience is like a steady anchor amidst the storm, giving you the stability to navigate your inner world with newfound courage.

When a man stands by you during your hardest days, it teaches your nervous system that not every expression of pain will push him away. Instead, his consistency becomes a reminder that you are not too much, that your struggles are not a burden. It’s in his ability to stay through the rough patches that you learn to lean into love without the constant fear of abandonment. His loyalty becomes a foundation upon which you can rebuild your sense of security.

When a man speaks kindly, even in the face of disagreements, it softens your defenses. The way he chooses words that build bridges instead of walls tells you that he values connection over conflict. His gentleness diffuses the tension, making you feel safe to express yourself without fear of being attacked. This kind of communication heals wounds left by harsh words from the past, allowing you to feel at ease in his presence.

When a man shows genuine interest in your thoughts, your dreams, and your fears, it validates your entire being. It’s more than just listening; it’s about making you feel like what you say matters. His attentiveness sends a message to your nervous system that your voice deserves to be heard, that you are not invisible. This recognition helps you embrace your worth and rediscover your inner light, knowing that your existence is valued.

When a man offers reassurance during moments of self-doubt, it creates a sense of safety that allows you to bloom. His words become a reminder that you are enough, even when you feel far from it. With each assurance, he helps dismantle the inner critic that has held you captive for so long. His belief in you becomes a source of strength, helping you step into the fullness of your potential.

When a man respects your boundaries and honors your pace, it gives your nervous system the time it needs to trust again. He understands that healing is not a race, and his respect shows that he’s willing to walk alongside you without rushing the process. This patience cultivates a deeper sense of intimacy, where you feel comfortable being your authentic self without the pressure to change or hurry.

When a man celebrates your growth and acknowledges the progress you’ve made, it makes you feel truly seen. His support encourages you to keep evolving, knowing that your efforts are recognized and cherished. It’s not about perfection for him, but about being present through every stage of your journey. His appreciation for who you are becoming helps you embrace yourself with more love and acceptance.

When a man prioritizes your emotional well-being, it teaches you that you deserve to be cared for in a healthy way. His actions show that your peace matters to him, that your comfort is a priority. It creates a space where you can finally rest without carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. This type of love doesn’t demand exhaustion; it offers a sanctuary where you can recharge and feel safe.

When a man chooses to grow with you instead of growing apart, it strengthens your bond. His willingness to work through challenges together shows that he’s invested in a shared future, not just in the good times but in the messy ones too. This commitment helps you trust the relationship more deeply, knowing that you are building something solid and enduring. His dedication to growth nurtures a connection where both hearts can heal and flourish together." 

Friday, December 13, 2024


 


 The following was written by a homeless man that took his life about a year after he wrote this, here's some real insight into the homeless issue. 

   R.I.P Michael Wesley Collins, he took his own life Wednesday, this is what he wrote about  homelessness at the end of November 2018.

"Homelessness is no joke. Taking a journey through being homeless and penniless has given me a new perspective on what hardships homeless people endure. Once you're in it, it's very, very difficult to escape. You run into chicken-egg problems again and again and it leads to an inevitable downward spiral. For example, you can't get a job because you're homeless and you're homeless because you can't get a job. 

Imagine having no car, being filthy and trying to show up to a job interview. It's impossible, and you come into a hopeless downward spiral. The homeless shelters are awful places where they pack people in like sardines in bunk beds, and everyone there is in a dark state of hopelessness.

The social services in the USA are a joke and they don't provide enough support to even live, let alone give you an opportunity to dig yourself out of a hopeless hole. Welfare amounts to almost nothing, not even enough to buy food, let alone establish an apartment or residence, and it's quite difficult to get as well, and the system is unforgiving for missed appointments, which can happen quite easily when you don't have a home or money for transportation. Again, it's part of the vicious cycle.

Often there is a waiting list to even get into a homeless shelter. In San Diego for example, the wait list is 1 month, so you must sleep on the street for a month before being considered to sleep in a crowded room. To receive government-assisted housing, the wait list is 2 years! If you become homeless in the richest country in the world, you would wait 2 years for relief!

People are immensely cruel to the homeless as well, many of whom suffer from a psychiatric condition that they cannot help. Often families reject people with psychiatric conditions with the misunderstanding that they could be dangerous in some way, but most often they are sensitive souls who also often connect with higher spiritual energies.

I am still homeless, though I'm continuing to fight my way out, but thankfully I still have some generous friends and haven't yet sunk so low that I cannot escape, though I remain on the precipice. 

I will say that I will kill myself before I fall into that level of despair, and I fight daily to keep myself from this fate, but often I must choose between difficult options. I have also endured an immense amount to trauma during this experience, and the idea of taking time for healing is ridiculous considering that I must navigate getting basic needs met like food and shelter with the onset of winter coming.

Please keep me and all other homeless in your prayers, but action is needed even more than prayer. If you see homeless, or know of someone on the brink of homelessness, please have compassion for them and give to them generously. You have no idea of the circumstances that led to their condition, as this world can be a cruel and unforgiving place.

I have a master's degree, high intelligence, and a variety of high-value skills, but I still wound up homeless and if you understood the story and reasons why, it would make perfect sense, and you would also understand that I had no control of the events that led to this place. It was a complex series of events that caused it, and it can truly happen to anyone."

Have compassion for those who have fallen into this horrible state of despair."

Monday, December 09, 2024


 Beth Cavete:


“Men are made in the image of God, 

and their sexual desire, while it CAN be utterly profane, 

is not nearly as disconnected from the rest of their psyche as the narrative goes.


Respect, acceptance, downtime, being understood, being treated as adequate, comforting human touch, being heard…

things that they often have less language to express than women do…

are needs that too often get funneled into one easily identified channel: sex.

Men are not Neanderthals or animals, 

though the devil seeks to reduce them to that thru sin.  

Men are whole, brilliantly deep, glorious beings, 

and ASTONISHINGLY 

come alive, multi-dimensionally, through the faithful love and kindness of women.

  

I was amazed to see what my boys needed from me when I became a mother, 

amazed at the tenderness of these fierce, tiny souls.  

I was dumbstruck by the deficit they would carry if I couldn’t afford to feed their hearts—how my encouragement and delight and awe and joy was what they thrived on.


The longings of a man’s heart are so far beyond being merely sexual, 

but sin deadens and dulls to nothingness and profanity, 

making foul what is holy.  

Sin, not manhood, is the problem. 


A man who has given up on everything else and whose heart has hardened to rock, 

is still stuck with biological urges. 

That’s not all he is, 

it may just be all that’s left.


So many men have never been treated like they’re holy, worthy of attention, 

an unfolding mystery, glorious, laden with mysterious potential and capacity.  

But they are.

  

If you know my writing, you know I HATE sexual sin and the denigration of women.  

But I believe ALL of it starts with profanity:  despising the glory of God in His image-bearers, 

and while lust obviously profanes the image of God in women, 

so does reducing men down to their basest form, their greatest vulnerability, 

agreeing with the devilish lie that their sexuality is merely selfish, singular, vile:  

that they have no hearts to break or needs to be met, 

and forgetting whose image they bear.

  

Men are whole beings, and their Savior KNOWS them, 

having been in every way tempted (not just by lust but by rejection, loneliness, derision, boredom, futility, terror…) as they are, and yet without sin.  


I have never seen chains broken by the lash of a whip. 

Jesus, who understands ALL, is the answer to the cries of desperate souls."