Wednesday, May 13, 2009

“From the time that the mother binds the child’s head till the moment that some kind assistant wipes the damp from the brow of the dying, we cannot exist without mutual aid.
All, therefore, that need aid have a right to ask it from their fellow-mortals. None who have the power of granting aid can refuse it without guilt.”

I like this thought; it made me stop and ponder its truth. I was raised to be self-reliant, and I think it is a good thing if not taken too far. This quote made me consider that there may be times we don’t think we need others, we can make it on our own, or we won’t accept charity, but the times are coming in life, when if not for others, we would doubtless suffer greatly. There are occasions in the nursing home when a new resident is admitted and they resent being dependent, and are very difficult and belligerent, but in the last years of one’s life, we will become increasingly dependent whether we like it or not. When these prideful people come and refuse to cooperate with the staff, they are simply put on medications that make them more compliant. It is sad to see but if one needs help and refuses it to their hurt, what choice is there? In the end when we are in the throws of dying, we will cry out for someone to help us, and in our culture there will be someone there to “damp the brow” and help ease us into death. Thank God for caring nurses, family and volunteers. On the flip side, bringing a child into the world leaves us equally dependent; and once again we have need of care givers.
All through life we need some degree of assistance, as nurse, teacher, doctor, or just the social needs we are designed with. So his point of being eager to help others struck me in a deeper and fuller way. When rearing children and one of them suffered a serious accident, I will always remember the gratitude I felt when my child was finally in the care of a doctor.

Samuel Smiles - photo by Richard Baillie


Mel said...

"...we cannot exist without mutual aid." How true. And in this culture of pride and self-sufficiency, how difficult. Asking for and receiving help is one of the hardest things I've ever done. How sad... I like this post, Fred. It's a keeper. :)

Joseph Pulikotil said...

Hi Fred:)

I have nothing much to comment on this post because I have to agree with you totally.

Yes, very often we need help. But our ego prevents us from asking for it. We suffer. It is here the kind people come to our aid without asking for it. They are the good samaritans. They put themselves to great trouble to help others. Therefore, it is our duty to help others in need whenever we can, even if we have to take some trouble.

May God give us the courage and strength to help others in need.

Have a nice day Fred:)

FCB said...

Hi Mel,
Glad you like this post, we truly are a culture of pride and self-sufficiency; we define ourselves that way. But there's a time a coming.
God bless,

Hi Joseph,
and I agree with your comments totally. It is a rare thing when someone comes to a person's aid without having been asked, and it is a beautiful thing.